I've been thinking a lot about ways in which people complicate their lives. Then I happened to see a documentary on Minimalism on Netflix. A simpler life is what I had been striving for when I left the corporate world. I have in large part been able to achieve this although it's all still a work in progress. What I realized though is that there are a number of traps that many of us fall into that don't serve to make our lives easier but instead actually make our lives more complicated.
The dots all sort of connected for me at that moment. I realized that relationships play a key role in this as well. When we are stuck in unhappy relationships that are out of balance, they become just another weight on us that keeps us from creating our own happiness. The reasons can be manyfold but bottom line is that if you are not happy in your relationship or marriage, then you should either try to fix it or consider moving on. Stagnating and doing nothing doesn't fix things.
Most people (myself included) have a great ability to put off things that are difficult or uncomfortable. So much in the same way that we clutter up our lives with stuff we don't need, relationships can be very much the same way. It's that connection and the fact that a simpler life isn't just purely about downsizing and rethinking the possessions we have and covet but rather a wholistic approach to all aspects of our life that made me think that relationships can be as much part of this as anything else. I'm using the term relationship loosely and it also encompasses friends and family that we interact with regularly. I'm sure you can think of people in your life that complicate your life and are hard to get along with.
Much in the same way that we clutter up our garages and closets, we do the same thing with relationships. Neither feels good. I'll be focusing more on this in the next few weeks and working on a program to help break this cycle.